There are so many opportunities to say ‘no’ to our children. It’s too dangerous, I’m too tired, there isn’t enough time, it’ll make a mess, yada yada yada.
Lately, I’ve been working on making the choice to say ‘yes!’ to my kids more often. When my daughter asked if she could light a candle today I said “yes!”
When the kids asked the other day if they could walk to Grandma’s, I said “Yes!”
When they asked yesterday if they could get out those playthings they love to play with but which have only a bazillion parts and pieces that spread out all over the floor, I said “Yes!”
Our days have been busy and full. My children are blessed to have a mother who was not gifted in the housekeeping department, and we’ve been away from home quite a bit lately. All this adds up to Mom saying ‘No!’ quite a lot. So instead of saying “no, not until . . .” or “no, because I don’t want . . . ” or “no, because you didn’t . . .” I’m looking opportunities to say “yes!”
As a result I have a daughter happy-dancing around the house very much like the flame dances on the wick of her candle and inventors creating amazing new possibilities for the future and children who are sleeping well at night because they’ve had plenty of fresh air & exercise.
Do you make a conscious effort to say ‘yes’ to your children? Or have you been following my pattern of saying ‘no’ too often?
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