Controlling the Tongue

“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” {Ephesians 4:29}

My children and I are working on controlling our tongues better and speaking words that build one another up rather than tearing one another down. In our study we are using an ebook {our affiliate link coming up!} called How to Manage Your Mouth, written by Connie Hughes from Smockity’ve been visiting Smockity Frocks off and on for a few years now – anyone who manages to have as many children as I do and lives to blog about it deserves my attention! I read along with her last year while she took a 30-day personal challenge to watch her mouth and how she spoke. The whole experience made such a lasting impression on her and her family and her readers that she decided to publish it. In her ebook, Connie has provided scripture to study and discuss, journaling pages for writing down thoughts, prayers, observations. Connie uses the S.O.A.P. method to structure this bible study – Scripture-Observation-Application-Prayer.

manage mouth bible study S.O.A.P.

This is now how we begin our school day – mom AND the kids! We each copy the scripture, write down our thoughts, consider how it applies to ourselves, write out a personal prayer, and then at lunch time we discuss a little of what we learned. This has been a huge blessing to our family and I’d love to give a copy to one of you! You can enter using the Rafflecopter form below.


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  1. I started getting my kids to memorize verses in ABC order (although I have been really bad about doing it recently). We memorized a verse for A-L or so and I still remember them! The kids are able to say them with some help. I definitely need to work on how I respond to the kids on a regular basis…

    • sounds like you are doing a great job, Kama – I like the ABC order, I’m sure that helps it stick in their brains.
      And I think we all can work to improve our responses!

  2. Jessica Medina says:

    I think I need to be a better example to them. I would like to win because I have a hard time knowing what to teach my children sometimes. Thanks.

  3. We use music to memorize scripture. We make up songs to different tunes and memorize by singing them

  4. tammy cordery says:

    I try to be a good example to my kids sometimes it is so hard that I slip and go off but my kids know that I’m just having my melt down.

    • Those times when we slip are terrific opportunities to teach them about forgiveness and grace. We all have those moments ๐Ÿ™‚

  5. Everywhere I have turned lately this very topic in in my face. Not an hour ago I wrote out several scriptures on this topic. I try to build people up but sometimes I still get caught up in gossip at work or say something unpleasant to my husband. I think God is trying to tell me I can do better in this area. Hope I win!

    • I could have written your comment myself, Amanda – that’s why I bought this book! she has one for adults, too but going the this with my kids has been just what I need. Having the scriptures in the forefront of our mind helps us catch those moments we begin to slip ๐Ÿ™‚

  6. We sing songs to memorize.

  7. Kristin says:

    I make scripture posters for the living room and we practice the scripture daily for one month (my kids are quite young). By the end of the month, they can recite the scripture with their backs to the poster. We do this with hymns as well.

    • these are wonderful ideas! Having scripture before our eyes, and also in our hearts and minds with music helps all of us, young and old memorize God’s Word.

  8. Boy do we need help with this at our house. Unfortunately, I am not always the greatest example ๐Ÿ™

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